The Girl In High Heels

So, why does a Ceylonese bride wear a veil? I myself don't know much about the tradition. I wasn't even aware of this until a few posts came up on Facebook. I don't any reason behind all the tradition that happens in a Ceylonese wedding. In a typical Ceylon wedding, the grooms sits on the manavarai (Canopy) through out the wedding. The brides comes in after the "rakshabandham" of the groom. Trust me, i don't even know what the hell is this. So apparently the bride and groom cannot see each other until he (groom) hands the bride her "Koorai" saree (wedding saree). That is the reason why a Ceylon bride wears a veil. The whole cost of the wedding falls under the bride's responsibility. Remember my earlier post about the gold melting ceremony? That is purely the responsibility of the groom's side. (Image from google search)

Since i have so many wedding coming up in the family, I've decided to post about some pre-wedding rituals in a Sri Lankan (ceylonese) wedding. It is also called as ponnuruku and the gold that is used to take the thali is melted at the bridegroom's house. Apparently this is an essential ceremony and it cannot be skipped. This ceremony normally occurs 5-7 days before the wedding. The groom presents the gold to the family's goldsmith to be melted in a clay pot. The bride do not participate  in this and the groom and bride from this time onwards do not see each other and they remain vegetarians until the wedding is over. After the gold melting, Kanni Kaal is planted in both houses.  A few guest from the groom's house attends the ceremony followed by a vegetarian meal. After the planting is over, ladies of both parties will make Athirasam and this is distributed to all present. The significance of this is something sweet is traditionally given to mark the good occasion a...

The Dowry Bride is my current read. I am just half way trough it. The book revolves about the issue of dowries which i believe is a huge problem in India. Thankfully, i don't see any brides getting burnt alive or murdered in Malaysia (touch-wood) because of dowry problems in any of the local newspapers. But i must say that this is a very serious problem. I don't see why the groom insist on receiving dowries. Don't you think, it's like the groom's side are buying the bride and the bride's side are selling off the daughter? It is a mindset that you cannot marry your daughter without dowry? Or is it the " i must marry someone with the package" attitude? It is a marriage. You can't buy love! I love watching satyamev jayate. I watch it on you-tube because we don't have the channel in Malaysia. It was so sad to see several brides being tortured just because of this dowry issue. And in some families, the bride's parents committed suicide because...